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Guys simply love if you ask him out. Why? It is because some guys fear rejection or simply because they want to save effort doing all the scary hard work. Furthermore, there is no risk of suffering a humiliating “no”!
We all know that it is OK to ask a guy for a date, especially if you are certain that he is also interested in you. So, would you be brave enough to do it? If your answer is yes, how can you do it right and how can you guarantee that he will not turn you down? It is actually not that difficult to date a guy. Well, read on for step-by-step guide to getting a YES from him…
1. Be sure that he is really interested
This is very important! How? You can initiate a casual conversation with him and observe his reactions to you. If he fancies you, the conversation will go on smoothly. You can also tell him a crap joke and see if he laughs. If he laughs all right and genuine, he is yours! For more tips, check out my article on how to tell if he likes you. I have listed 50 ways to tell if a guy is interested in you.
2. Do not judge a book by its cover
It is not necessary that he does not like you if he has not asked you out. It is more likely that he is worried that he might look goofy to you, and most important of all, he is scared of you saying “no” to him.
3. Make inquiries or do some homework about him
Ask around to find out about his interests, hobbies and favorite hang out place. Remember to do it discreetly! You do not want to announce it to the entire world.
4. Flirt with him the right way
• Smile and be courteous at all times.
• Create friendly chats with him as much as possible once you are well-equipped with information about him and impress him with your “natural” knowledge.
• Compliment him. Tell him something like he looks great, but do not overdo it. You only have to make him feel comfy around you.
• Listen to him alertly. This is one of the most effective flirting skills.
• Touch him on his appropriate body parts only and not too much of it. A light touch is enough to send the message across to him.
5. Think of a right way to ask him out
You need to ask him the right question without being too aggressive or desperate if you crave for a positive answer instead of asking the wrong question and create an opening for him to reject you.
Don’t ask… “Would you like to go out with me some day?”
Ask... “So when shall we go out?”
Don't ask... “Do you want to send me home?”
Ask... “I am going now and you could always walk / drive me home”
Don't ask... “Shall we go for a movie this Saturday?”
Ask... “We could meet up if you are planning to go to the pictures on weekend. What time is good for you?’
Don't ask... “Will you be my boyfriend?”
Ask... “When do you think you and me could get together?”
6. Finally, make the approach to date him!
Decide on how you are going to ask him. Do you want to call or ask him face to face? If your cheeks are easily blushed, it is better to use the phone. Do not leave a note for him or beg a friend to ask him for you. Make sure you ask him yourself.
Good luck!
Are you wondering why didn’t he ask you out on a second date? This has been a question among many girls across the globe. The answer is simple: He is just not so into you! I know it hurts but it is the truth. Sometimes we hope that he could tell us what he really thinks. But hey, isn’t the message obvious when he can’t be bothered to make any contact with you? Is it really worth checking your mobile phone every other minute hoping that he calls or sends you a text message? At times, we tend to create horrible excuses when a guy doesn’t call just to ease ourselves!
Excuse:
Maybe he doesn’t want to rush into it
Truth:
Instead of keeping you guessing, a guy will let you know if he really likes you, but for some reasons he doesn’t want to rush into things to make sure that you don’t get away.
Excuse:
Maybe he is intimidated by me
Truth:
What an excuse! If a guy is really into you, he will ask you out again regardless of who you are or even if you are earning better than him.
Excuse:
Maybe he is afraid to wreck the friendship
Truth:
If he really wants you, he will give it a try even if it may risk the friendship.
Excuse:
Maybe he too busy to contact me
Truth:
A man will never be too busy to make time for someone he adores.
Excuse:
Maybe he is waiting for me to call him
Truth:
A guy will not wait for you to call him if he is really keen.
Excuse:
If he isn’t interested, why does he give me his number?
Truth:
He will make the move if he wants you!
Going after a guy who clearly isn’t bothered about you is likely to blow your self-esteem and confidence after some time, especially if it doesn’t work out. If he wants you, he will call. However, I have encountered some guys who are really shy. It is not necessary for him to call first although it has been said that girls should be passive when it comes to dating. I initiated my last relationship, not knowing if he would be interested or even remembers me because we only met once at a business seminar. To my surprise, he responded positively after our first date and we actually took all the steps to move it forward. Although it is over between us now, I had a wonderful relationship with him and I am still proud that I made the first call.
If you think that you are a reasonably confident person or if you are able to cope with rejections, go ahead if you feel like calling the guy you want instead of sitting around and wait. Some guys may appreciate your call as a hint for him to ask you out for a second date, especially if he is the less confident type. However, if he neither follows up after your first call nor make plans for a second date, don’t bother calling anymore. It will only make you feel demeaned and it is obvious that he doesn’t like you! In some cases, he may like you but some guys are lazy and prefer girls to do the calling and chasing after the first date. Do you really want to be the one who is doing the chasing all the time or to beg a guy who is not into you at all for a second date?
On the other hand, if you see yourself as a conformist and feel that you are supposed to be chased, or simply can’t handle a “No” for an answer, then don’t call and wait to see if he calls after a while. If he still doesn’t call, it is obvious that you didn’t manage to tug his heart string. Stop making up excuses for yourself. You will only end up hurting yourself further if you continue planting hopes that he will invite for a second date. Walk away at this stage than to fall in love with him few months down the line. Move on and find someone who cares for you. He didn’t want you, but some day someone definitely will!
=) best regards to all!
It is always easy for men to get gifts for women but it is definitely hard work for us women to get him presents that will hit his sweet spot, whether it is his birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day or Christmas. If you have trouble deciding between a coffee mug and a wallet, then you should to read on.
Leather
It could be leather belt, leather wallet, leather bookmark, leather keychain or leather anything! Unless he is allergic to hide or has strong reasons not to it (religion, for example), a man always appreciates leather, primarily because it lasts. Guys are big on practicality, and if you give him a leather wallet to replace his old one, that means he does not have to shop for another one for at least 10 years! Hehe…
Mobile Phone Case
As long as a mobile phone is in a man’s pocket, there is always the risk of it falling out unbeknownst to him. So, pay a visit to the mall to find a case that fits. Make sure you know the exact brand and model of his phone first. Get an original case from the phone manufacturer itself, if possible.
Gadgets and Gizmos (any kind)
Meaning a thumb drive, USB-powered fan or massager, funky five-button mouse or Bluetooth hands free kit. Then again, do note that a gadget is only as useful as its owner makes it. For example, a writer would most certainly prefer a functional keyboard instead, but an addicted computer gamer would appreciate an ergonomic keyboard and mouse. You may also consider a gadget for his car, from battery voltage meters to altimeters to car hands free kits, gizmos for wheels are aplenty.
Timepieces
Wristwatch, desk clock, wall clock, bathroom clock or anything in between are great material gifts that last long too.
Stationery
Pens, pencils or other such cool stuff he can use at work are wonderful gifts for men. By getting him a Parker to replace his Kilometrico, you are telling him that what he does is important, not just to him, but to you as well.
Personal Vouchers
It means vouchers sign by you that can’t be bought anywhere! You can create vouchers which are redeemable by him for things like massage, backrubs, footrubs and other “personal / intimate services” you think he would enjoy. However, do not give away vouchers for things that you have difficulty doing and do not make promises you cannot or will not keep.
Laptop Case
Do him a nice turn by getting him a new laptop case that is lightweight and has a) lots of pockets; b) a hard case to protect the contents; c) security features. Make sure you take note of the type of notebook (widescreen, mini, regular) he has so that you don’t get something that is too big or too small.
Electric Shaver
The electric shaver is one of those things that a man would like to have but will never buy for himself. Guys like it because of the convenience it offers. It is also important to get one that comes with rechargeable batteries.
Tie Pin
Most men style guides are pretty rotten, unless he is a fashion designer or maybe gay. Men have always been hopeless at matching the clothes they wear to occasion. So, match stuff for him and he will love you for that! Also, remember to always buy a tie to go with a tie pin!
Smelling good stuffs
After shave, perfume and body spray are all great gifts and are welcome every time. This also a way to keep him smelling good all year round. I bought a Calvin Klein Eternity Summer for my guy for when I came back from my Taiwan trip and it certainly puts a smile on his face.
Car stuff
Guys who love their cars are so easy to please when it comes to presents. To car enthusiasts, great gifts equals anything that they can use on their car – polish, glimmer, weird lights, dashboard displays, bumper stickers, car seat embellishments, gear shift knobs, steering wheel covers and the list goes on and on.
Shopping vouchers
Shopping vouchers are a pretty shameless way of admitting that you have no clue what to get him… LOL! However, before you buy a shopping voucher, you would do well to at least put some thought into what and where he would like to shop.
