Love and Relationship

Stella is a top agent in her company and has just concluded her biggest business deal for the month. Her energy for the day has drained up and the coffee machine has broken. She can’t wait to be home to unwind for the day, pamper herself in a warm scented bath, and hope that her loving yet unemployed boyfriend is setting up a romantic dinner he has been promising her. With whatever energy left in her body, she walks home the moment the clock strikes at 5.30 pm. She enters into her home sweet home and her other half is lying around with his play station, watching her telly, eating the food she bought and then ask her to pay for his credit card bills for him! Stella is furious but she holds on to her frustration out of love.
The above example shows that Stella is dating a loser! According to most relationship gurus, the percentage of boyfriends taking advantage of their girlfriends who are financially capable is increasing at an upsetting rate. In this modern society, women can also be the major breadwinners because they have become far more independent than their mothers and grandmothers.

Money has been the number one issue for couples other than sex, infidelity or personal differences. Many new couples avoid discussing about money because they find it to be sensitive as well as unnecessary and this is a key reason for relationships to breakdown as it develops. Your relationship could have trouble surviving unless you find a way to balance the issue before the situation escalates out of control. If you are dating a man who does not contribute his responsibilities to the relationship, you will probably end up feeling cheated emotionally and financially when things don’t work out.

Try to talk about the real problem with him as well as his responsibilities to you and the relationship. In many cases, you will find him avoiding the subject matter and may even respond furiously or violently in order to protect his comfortable situation or insist that you continue feeding him, especially if you are a smart professional woman. So, what’s next? Well, if you cherish the relationship, give it a final attempt and consider consulting a counselor who specializes in couple’s therapy. If he is not willing to compromise despite all the discussion and counseling sessions, you know he is only after your money and the best solution is to get away from him ASAP! Never give in to this sort of man. Money cannot buy love and do not let him to brainwash you. Always remember that no man should think that he could escape from his responsibilities just because you are financially fit!

Take a simple test below to see if he loves your money – more than you!

• Do you have to pay when he takes you out for dinner?
• Do you pay for both movie tickets and popcorn all the time?
• Does he borrow money from you occasionally and never pay back?
• Do you have to buy the traveling tickets when the both of you go for a vacation?
• Does he argue with you when you ask him to contribute money paying for household necessities and bills?
• Does he drive your car all the time; refuse to buy his own when he can afford to or treat his own car as a “garage queen”?
• Do you find yourself spending three quarter of your paycheck on him every month?
• Does he ask how much business or money you made everyday when you come home from work?

IF YOU ANSWERED YES TO MORE THAN THREE QUESTIONS ABOVE, WATCH OUT! DANGER AHEAD! YOUR BOYFRIEND IS ALL OVER YOUR MONEY, BIG TIME!

I will discuss about men who fail to fulfil their responsibilities as a husband and father in my upcoming post. So, stay tune and be happy always :)

It is always easy for men to get gifts for women but it is definitely hard work for us women to get him presents that will hit his sweet spot, whether it is his birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day or Christmas. If you have trouble deciding between a coffee mug and a wallet, then you should to read on.

Leather
It could be leather belt, leather wallet, leather bookmark, leather keychain or leather anything! Unless he is allergic to hide or has strong reasons not to it (religion, for example), a man always appreciates leather, primarily because it lasts. Guys are big on practicality, and if you give him a leather wallet to replace his old one, that means he does not have to shop for another one for at least 10 years! Hehe…

Mobile Phone Case
As long as a mobile phone is in a man’s pocket, there is always the risk of it falling out unbeknownst to him. So, pay a visit to the mall to find a case that fits. Make sure you know the exact brand and model of his phone first. Get an original case from the phone manufacturer itself, if possible.

Gadgets and Gizmos (any kind)
Meaning a thumb drive, USB-powered fan or massager, funky five-button mouse or Bluetooth hands free kit. Then again, do note that a gadget is only as useful as its owner makes it. For example, a writer would most certainly prefer a functional keyboard instead, but an addicted computer gamer would appreciate an ergonomic keyboard and mouse. You may also consider a gadget for his car, from battery voltage meters to altimeters to car hands free kits, gizmos for wheels are aplenty.

Timepieces
Wristwatch, desk clock, wall clock, bathroom clock or anything in between are great material gifts that last long too.

Stationery
Pens, pencils or other such cool stuff he can use at work are wonderful gifts for men. By getting him a Parker to replace his Kilometrico, you are telling him that what he does is important, not just to him, but to you as well.

Personal Vouchers
It means vouchers sign by you that can’t be bought anywhere! You can create vouchers which are redeemable by him for things like massage, backrubs, footrubs and other “personal / intimate services” you think he would enjoy. However, do not give away vouchers for things that you have difficulty doing and do not make promises you cannot or will not keep.

Laptop Case
Do him a nice turn by getting him a new laptop case that is lightweight and has a) lots of pockets; b) a hard case to protect the contents; c) security features. Make sure you take note of the type of notebook (widescreen, mini, regular) he has so that you don’t get something that is too big or too small.

Electric Shaver
The electric shaver is one of those things that a man would like to have but will never buy for himself. Guys like it because of the convenience it offers. It is also important to get one that comes with rechargeable batteries.

Tie Pin
Most men style guides are pretty rotten, unless he is a fashion designer or maybe gay. Men have always been hopeless at matching the clothes they wear to occasion. So, match stuff for him and he will love you for that! Also, remember to always buy a tie to go with a tie pin!

Smelling good stuffs
After shave, perfume and body spray are all great gifts and are welcome every time. This also a way to keep him smelling good all year round. I bought a Calvin Klein Eternity Summer for my guy for when I came back from my Taiwan trip and it certainly puts a smile on his face.

Car stuff
Guys who love their cars are so easy to please when it comes to presents. To car enthusiasts, great gifts equals anything that they can use on their car – polish, glimmer, weird lights, dashboard displays, bumper stickers, car seat embellishments, gear shift knobs, steering wheel covers and the list goes on and on.

Shopping vouchers
Shopping vouchers are a pretty shameless way of admitting that you have no clue what to get him… LOL! However, before you buy a shopping voucher, you would do well to at least put some thought into what and where he would like to shop.