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Falling in love is great, especially if you have stolen the heart of your dream guy! However, there are things you must know if you want to be the coolest girlfriend around!
Just be yourself
Do not be desperate to impress him, whether it is by saying or doing things you would not do normally in an effort to sound cool or stay quiet just because you are afraid of saying the wrong thing. Over-impressing someone will sometimes affect the way you act and he will notice you to be fake and unnatural eventually. So, just be your real self. Always remember that he chooses you because you are you and there is no one quite like you!
Have your own life and do not cling
Ok, you fell in love with him and you want to be with him 24-7. Yeah, it sounds loving and sweet but spending all day, every day with your guy is unhealthy to the relationship. It is sweet to know that you care and feel so proud of your guy that you cannot bear to leave his side but please give him a break! Of course, he wants to spend time with you too but just not all of it! Sticking to your boyfriend like a leech is a bad idea! It is essential to keep your man wanting more. In other words, do not be a clingy sweetheart who is available 24 hours a day or sit by phone to wait for his phone call! Have time for your interests, friends and family members. Give yourself and him room to breathe, would ya?
Learn more about him
Do not assume that you know him well just because you know his underwear size, shoe size and etc. There is always a lot to learn about a man, especially if he is the type who plays the cards close to his chest. Try to learn more about him, either from his family members or close friends. He will be amazed to know that you actually show interest and understand him.
Understand his moods
No one is jolly 24 hours a day. We all have our days when we are gloomy, sensitive and irritable. If your boyfriend has had a bad day, do not be suspicious or assume that he does not love you anymore. You may be tempted to help him to soothe his depression or bad mood but think how annoying it can be when you keep asking “Are you ok?”, “What’s the matter?” or “Anything I can do?” Try to give your boyfriend some space to do his thinking and calm his feelings. What you do not do can be more helpful than what you do at times!
Do not try to change him
You are dating him because you think he is great, right? So, accept him for who he is and appreciate the fact that nobody is perfect. It is meaningless to go out with someone and expect him to change the way he dresses, speaks or etc. What if you are dating a guy who tries to change you? Not a good idea, eh?
Feel free to express your opinion
Do not agree to whatever he suggests, because you can never agree on everything he says. Feel free to express your thoughts, likes or dislikes. Many girls are afraid to speak up because they fear that they will offend their boyfriend. You will only lose your identity if you are too watchful of what you want to say or say whatever you think he wants to hear. Many guys will appreciate if you voice your thoughts and have your own views. So, speak your mind whenever it is necessary.
Do not be overly jealous
A little jealousy is healthy for a relationship but being overly jealous will harm. Try to build more trust and be cool about his female clients or friends. Of course, if you caught him having phone sex or texting the opposite sex every night or sticking his tongue down someone else’s throat, well, that is a different story altogether…
Hey guys! Here are 10 things you can do to be a good or should I say a caring boyfriend =)
Be honest with her and with yourself. Never cheat because it will backfire on you. I caught my ex-boyfriend cheating on me and once is enough to convince me to dump him right away, even though the relationship is already 3 years.
Just be yourself. Do not try to impress her, whether it is by saying or doing things you would not do normally in an effort to sound cool or stay quiet just because you are afraid of saying the wrong thing. Over-impressing someone will sometimes affect the way you act and she will notice you to be fake and unnatural eventually. So, just be your real self and he will love it. Always remember that he chooses you because you are you and there is no one quite like you.
Communicate with her. Communication is vital in any relationship. Exchange views and thoughts. Do not do all the talking and expect her to listen to you only. Be a good listener for her as well. Make sure you are really listening when she is talking and do not just wait for your chance to talk or keep talking about yourself.
Have compassion. Try to put yourself in her shoes and you will actually know how she feels and what she is going through. This will eventually enhance the relationship with better understanding.
Understand her moods. Women are pretty emotional and sensitive. Most of us tend get agitated easily particularly when our menses approaching. So, bear with the emotional tantrums.
Be polite, please! Have good manners, say thank you, please and say goodbye before ending calls. Do not hang up the phone suddenly. It is a turn off having bad phone manners and impoliteness is very irritating. Oh yeah, please avoid cursing as well.
Do not embarrass her. Do not go around telling others (even if it is your best friend) about her without her consent. It is a major disrespect and it will hurt her. If you both argued over an issue, do not tell others before discussing the solution with her.
Be thoughtful. Remember important dates such as birthdays or anniversaries and make plans to surprise her. Do not let the relationship turn dull as time passes by. Check out 123 ways to express your love for quick ideas.
Love her for who she is. Do not attempt to change her or compare her to your ex-girlfriends or any celebrities of your fancy. Remember, you chose her initially because of her and not because you want her to be someone else.
Practice good hygiene. Most girls would rather have a boyfriend who cares for hygiene than a boyfriend who is good looking but lack of hygiene. So, take care of your skin, hair and overall health.
1) Be Honest
Never ever begin a relationship with a lie, more so when you have been in one for quite some time. Do not lie about anything, whether it is about your age, occupation, family or background. Why? It is because you will have tough time convincing him or her of any other truths once your partner finds out about your dishonesty. What may begin as a hairline fracture of a white lie, could develop into cracks, and ultimately, rifts that might push your partner further away from you and destroy your love for one another. Always remember, honesty is the best policy.
2) Listen Up
Remember in my first post on My Christmas Gift, I mentioned about my boyfriend not listening to things I said, thus making a mistake on purchasing an ideal gift for me? Yes, listening to your partner is vital. Based on a corporate survey, 80% of what employers want in a good worker is listening skill so as to avoid mistakes and miscommunication that may affect productivity. Hence, similarly in a relationship, you need to ensure that you are sensitive to your partner's wants and needs if you wish for a smooth flowing love and romance. The best way to be in the knows is by listening when your partner talks and remembering what is important. Your partner likewise will return the favor once you have showed him or her how it is done.
3) Communicate
I know that this is easier said than done because most of the time, we argue due to communication issues. "He or she does not understand me!" is the most common gripe I have heard. You cannot expect your partner to recognize your hopes and dreams unless you TELL him or her. Habits and quirkiness can be easily discovered over time but not your thoughts. Remember, your partner is just an ordinary person like you and not a mind-reader. So, start communicating.
4) Share
If you love your partner, tell him or her! Why hold back emotions when life is so short? Do not be shy for whatever your heart feels. As mentioned, your partner is not a mind-reader. So, if you are upset over something he or she said or unhappy about a particular habit, say it instead of letting it fester inside you. Communicating is the best way to keep trouble out of your mind and avoid keeping your partner at arm's length. Sharing also means caring.
5) Be affectionate
Action speaks louder than words. All talk and no play will not work if you do not display love and emotions now and then. Expressing your love in various ways also imply how much you value your partner. Little gestures such as kisses and hugs each day enhance the relationship. Also, be creative in your playfulness. For ideas to express your love, check out on 123 ways to express your love.
