Loving someone is never easy. Breaking up with that someone after you have exerted much effort, time and heart is excruciatingly painful! You would probably know what it really feels if you are reading this now. At times, some said that women heal faster because they cry and are more open with their emotions. On the other hand, men do not heal as quickly as women because they are more reserve with their emotions. However, from my perspective, I find that men do not hurt as much as women do, but I do not deny that some do suffer.
In my years of courtship, I went into depression and insomnia 2 times when I broke up with my ex-boyfriends. Yes, I broke up with them but I felt every pain. It was so painful that I could hardly breathe! I have tried numerous ways to cure my bleeding soul and one method I found most useful is to do my prayers and chants. This is one method that works best for me.
I’m a divorcee now. Yes, My marriage ended. I like my ex-husband Brian, but we bumped into too many misfortunes and we are simply not compatible. I have no idea why I always feel that he doesn’t love me, or maybe not enough. Am I being greedy or is it him who fails to deliver his love to me? Lately, someone asked me if I still love him. It is rather hard to erase some lovely memories, so yeah, I still love him but I’m 100% certain that it is impossible for us to be together again. Well... enough of my story. Let me now share some of the methods to heal a broken heart that works excellent for me.
Do your prayers or try to meditate. Find somewhere quiet and comfortable. Make sure no one disturbs you and switch off that cell phone! Let out your emotions, cry if you need to. After that, try to relax your body and mind. Make an effort to brush off whatever rubbish that enters your mind (it is hard initially but it is possible)! Keep trying, relax your muscles and you will be surprised how much tension left after that.
If you are having severe depression, insomnia or too much sleeping, lack of appetite, low self esteem or fail to carry out routine task, seek professional help. Then again, regardless of what professional advice or medications, at the end of the day, it is you who is in control of your own self. Be strong and have the determination.
I love to travel when my heart is broken. I would go sourcing for travel agencies and go to somewhere I have not been to. I'm planning a vacation to Australia some time next month. Do not go back to some place you have been with your ex, unless you want to rewind those unhappy memories.
If you have many friends, surround yourself with them. Arrange for outings or just for a cup of coffee. Force yourself to go out. I tend to cry out my emotions to my friends or contacts via MSN.
Pamper yourself. Go for a new haircut, shopping or a body massage. Treat yourself to something you enjoy.
Consider dating other people. It is part of a healing process.
Resist the urge to call your ex, unless you really want reconciliation and please make sure it is worth it. Do not allow yourself to be hurt again due to a moment of impulse decision. I broke up with one of my ex-boyfriends twice and we reconciled only to know it was a mistake. A huge mistake… So, think before you dial that number.
Always remember that healing takes time. Give your heart time to recover and you will be so glad that it is over when you think back after some time.