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Stella is a top agent in her company and has just concluded her biggest business deal for the month. Her energy for the day has drained up and the coffee machine has broken. She can’t wait to be home to unwind for the day, pamper herself in a warm scented bath, and hope that her loving yet unemployed boyfriend is setting up a romantic dinner he has been promising her. With whatever energy left in her body, she walks home the moment the clock strikes at 5.30 pm. She enters into her home sweet home and her other half is lying around with his play station, watching her telly, eating the food she bought and then ask her to pay for his credit card bills for him! Stella is furious but she holds on to her frustration out of love.
The above example shows that Stella is dating a loser! According to most relationship gurus, the percentage of boyfriends taking advantage of their girlfriends who are financially capable is increasing at an upsetting rate. In this modern society, women can also be the major breadwinners because they have become far more independent than their mothers and grandmothers.
Money has been the number one issue for couples other than sex, infidelity or personal differences. Many new couples avoid discussing about money because they find it to be sensitive as well as unnecessary and this is a key reason for relationships to breakdown as it develops. Your relationship could have trouble surviving unless you find a way to balance the issue before the situation escalates out of control. If you are dating a man who does not contribute his responsibilities to the relationship, you will probably end up feeling cheated emotionally and financially when things don’t work out.
Try to talk about the real problem with him as well as his responsibilities to you and the relationship. In many cases, you will find him avoiding the subject matter and may even respond furiously or violently in order to protect his comfortable situation or insist that you continue feeding him, especially if you are a smart professional woman. So, what’s next? Well, if you cherish the relationship, give it a final attempt and consider consulting a counselor who specializes in couple’s therapy. If he is not willing to compromise despite all the discussion and counseling sessions, you know he is only after your money and the best solution is to get away from him ASAP! Never give in to this sort of man. Money cannot buy love and do not let him to brainwash you. Always remember that no man should think that he could escape from his responsibilities just because you are financially fit!
Take a simple test below to see if he loves your money – more than you!
• Do you have to pay when he takes you out for dinner?
• Do you pay for both movie tickets and popcorn all the time?
• Does he borrow money from you occasionally and never pay back?
• Do you have to buy the traveling tickets when the both of you go for a vacation?
• Does he argue with you when you ask him to contribute money paying for household necessities and bills?
• Does he drive your car all the time; refuse to buy his own when he can afford to or treat his own car as a “garage queen”?
• Do you find yourself spending three quarter of your paycheck on him every month?
• Does he ask how much business or money you made everyday when you come home from work?
IF YOU ANSWERED YES TO MORE THAN THREE QUESTIONS ABOVE, WATCH OUT! DANGER AHEAD! YOUR BOYFRIEND IS ALL OVER YOUR MONEY, BIG TIME!
I will discuss about men who fail to fulfil their responsibilities as a husband and father in my upcoming post. So, stay tune and be happy always :)
You are in love but your love is miles apart from you. At times, short distance relationship is already difficult but loving with miles can be even more difficult. Then again, I have seen successful long term relationships but it takes a lot of commitment and positive attitude. Here are some of what you can do to make your long distance relationship work. I hope you all will find this article useful.
Discuss important matters beforehand. There will be lots of difficulties ahead. You need to be honest with what you expect from your partner and so does he or she. Be open if it is ok for both of you to date other people or making friends with the opposite sex, and the dos and don’ts. Discuss this with your partner and be very honest to each other so that it can reduce unnecessary suspicions.
Try to avoid jealousy. Jealousy and suspicions is the easiest way to destroy a relationship, no matter how much you love each other. Do not get mad if your partner missed your calls or unable to talk to you because he or she is busy. Leave a message and he / she will call when available. Do not get jealous and throw senseless question if your partner goes out for drinks with people. Never assume the worst. Maintain your social life and be happy. Do not isolate yourself just because your love is far away.
Stay positive. Brush away the negative thoughts and concentrate on the positive side. Being away with your dear is not that bad after all. You can use the available time to pursue your career, interest and hobbies. It also gives you opportunity to build your patience.
Do not attempt to be controlling. No one likes to be manipulated, not even you. Learn to trust each other completely to make the relationship a success. As long as both of you are sincere with the relationship, there is no need to control. Remember that control can damage any relationship just like jealousy.
Visit. If you have the budget, why not visit each other as frequent as possible? Phone calls are not sufficient to make long distance love survive. My friend visited his girlfriend at least 2-3 times per year, their relationship turned out well and they are now married. So, when you have every chance, go visit your partner.
Surprise each other. Surprise your partner with a card, a small gift or something you feel would really put a smile on your partner’s face. Snail mail requires effort but they are romantic. Better still, post your partner a gift!
Bond a lot. A long distance relationship needs lots of communication to make up for physical absence. Nurture and build your emotional intimacy when talking to each other. Update your partner adequately so that the lack of communication doesn’t cause you to drift apart and never ever end the conversation with any argument.
Blog it. Start an online journal like Blogger at www.blogger.com or a online friends network such as Facebook to share your daily dos, post photos or videos, or send virtual hugs, kisses or smiles.
Text each other. Because your phone is with you all the time and text messages are instantaneous, you can feel like you are very close to each other. Get the text messages going with something like “Wishing you were here” or “I am thinking about you right now”.
Do things together. Long distance relationship is very challenging. Relying on phone calls and emails alone can soon be very boring. Thus, it is very important to do things together. For example, schedule a time to meet online and get a webcam so you can see each other, play games or watch a movie at the same time.
Good luck and wishing those in a long distance relationship success ;)
Stay tune for my next post on Mistakes Men & Women Make in a Relationship. Till then, xoxo!
Many of us stay in a relationship despite it is an unhappy one because of the love we have for that special someone. Then again, a bad relationship is unhealthy for your mind, body, health and it can raise blood pressure, stress levels and cause emotional ache. Try my relationship quiz below to find out if you are in a healthy relationship and how you can fix it if your relationship is gloomy. Just match your answers to the corresponding icons or shapes and add up to check your result at the bottom of this post.
1) How often do you and your partner argue?
♥ Once in a while to clear the air
★Sometimes but I always feel iritated with my partner's behaviour but I am tolerating
♫ Almost never
◆ Almost daily
2) What is the main cause for argument?
★ Sex
♥ Insignificant and silly matters
◆ Clashes in opinions and views on life
♫ Not spending enough time together
3) How do you and your partner get back to normal after an argument?
◆ It will be days for us to speak to each other again
♫ We forgive and forget quickly
★We just go to bed and it will be all OK when one of us apologize the next morning
♥ We discuss calmly for a win-win solution
4) How often do you feel emotionally secure with your partner?
♫ Always
♥ Most of the time
★ Once in a blue moon
◆ On no account
5) Do you trust that your partner is faithful?
★ Not when things are ugly between us
◆ No way! I strongly suspect that my partner is having an affair!
♫ I guarantee that my partner will never ever cheat on me
♥ We all make mistakes, but I trust that my partner would not betray our love
6) What is your sex life like?
♫ Great!
♥ Good most of the time
★ Can be better
◆ Absent
7) If you are having a bad day, will you go to your partner for comfort?
★ Depends, sometimes I feel better talking to a close friend
◆ No, my partner will not comprehend, we will end up arguing and I will feel worse
♫ Yes, my partner never fails to cheer me up during my depressing times
♥ Yes, he will listen to me, allow me to complain and then do something sweet that makes my day again
8) How would you feel if you ever break up with your partner?
♫ No! I can't imagine living my life without my partner
♥ I will feel sad and devastated of course, but I know I will move on after that
★ I think about it at times but I end up staying at the end
◆ I feel life will be so much meaningful and wonderful all over again
9) Which of the followings stresses your life most?
★ Work
♫ What is stress?
◆ My relationship
♥ A little bit of everything
10) How happy are you in your relationship?
♫ I am very happy
♥ I am good most of the time
★ So-so
◆ Not happy most of the time
RESULTS!
Mostly ♫ - It is TOO Healthy
A relationship with no arguments is too good to be true. Arguments may not be entirely unhealthy for a relationship. Infact, arguments enhance the relationship with better understanding and also help to reconcile differences to help relationship to grow. The key is to argue the smart way! Hence, do not be afraid to reveal your true self and it is absolutely OK to argue once in a while provided you do not argue over senseless matters.
Mostly ♥ - Wow!
Keep up the good work. You are in a stable relationship that offers mutual support. However, always keep in mind that you may still be in the honeymoon period or the experiencing the excitement of falling in love. You may need to work harder to keep the sparks alive once normality sets in. I would suggest you check out my post on 123 ways to express your love to maintain your relationship healthy and alive ;)
Mostly ★ - Err??
You are in a so-so relationship with uncertainties about whether you should continue or leave your relationship. This is not very healthy and often this is the time when people have affairs due to insecurities. You should rediscover the reasons why you chose to be with your partner initially and plan some quality time together to revive feelings of love and build on understanding.
Mostly ◆ - OMG!
It is time for you to save or leave your relationship. If you feel that the relationship is worth saving, make effort to improve the relationship to a state that is acceptable to both of you or seek professional help. However, if the relationship is resulting too much stress, depression or health problems, it is time to say goodbye.
Good Luck and stay tune for more quizzes =)
Ok, with reference to my last post on Romance Tips for Valentine's Day, I have posted 6 very inexpensive romantic tips to keep your relationship sizzling on that night of romance and under Romantic Tip No. 6, I mentioned about foods to put you in the mood for love and feeling frisky. And YES, certain foods are indeed rich in substances that our body needs to reach its sexual peak as studies and researches confirmed. So, please read on to find out which food that can get you all romantic and charged this Valentine's! ;)
1) Bananas
You will love this fruit for that bedroom endurance. Why? Bananas can help to ciculate testosterone in the blood as it contains magnesium. Testosterone, in turn, will improve libido. In addition, bananas also contain a natural feel good chemical which is called serotonin which can put you in good mood for mushy feeling. So, prior to making out, eat some bananas. Sharing a banana split is fun too =)
2) Asparagus
Want to stir some lust? Eat stalks of asparagus 3 days in a row! Do you know that our kidney is an organ that is said to regulate libido? And asparagus is known as a tonic for the kidneys according to TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine). Mostly phytoestrgens, or steriods in asparagus act like a blast of hormone theraphy to get you in the loving mood.
3) Oysters
Oysters have been long known as a natural libido-booster. Its key ingredient is mineral zinc for testosterone production, thus enhancing sexual performance for both men and women. Oysters also contain vast amount of amino acids that accelarate the rush of sexual hormones. So, if you want to benefit more from the minerals in an oyster, make sure you chew them thoroughly.
4) Flaxseeds
One tablespoon of flaxseed per days helps increase libido-boosting testosterone, thanks to the vitamins it contains. Flaxseeds also contain great source of omega-3 and omega-6, which are essential for sex hormones. An alternative to flaxseeds would be Tongkat Ali to increase sex hormone levels even greater and it is scientifically proven.
Valentine's Day is 2 days away and I am so excited! I even thought of a Valentine's eye make up look for that night. Please check out the my eye make up tutorial for Valentine's Day at my beauty channel HERE. Oh, if you haven't got your love anything for Valentine's, do check out the right side bar under Recent & Famous Posts for last minute Gift Ideas.
Stay tune for my next post on My Valentine's Day and Gift =)
Have fun and remember to be safe!
Remember that you do not have to buy something expensive. Sometimes, small gestures can easily bring back that loving feeling.
Romantic Tip No.1
Make a compilation of songs you both enjoy. They can include all types of songs, even rap or rock, as long as you know you both will enjoy listening to as a couple.
Romantic Tip No. 2
Write love messages! Leave sticky notes around the house for your loved one to find, such as on the fridge, on the writing desk, on the computer, his golf set or briefcase, or even on the cellphone! Simple messages like "I love you" or "I miss you" is great enough to put you and your partner in the right mood...
Romantic Tip No. 3
Create a scrapbook of your love journey. Hmmm... you can include favorite photos, cherished mementos and love notes. Or if you still have that ticket stub of the most romantic movies you both watched together, you can include it in =) Creating a scrapbook does not only record the lovely moments you had together but also, when you and partner look at it, it can relive those tender moments.
Romantic Tip No. 4
Dinner! Prepare your partner's favorite dinner and do not forget to light those candles. Favorite dinner does not mean expensive food. It can be burgers, pizzas and fries as long as you both enjoy! So, who said that a romantic candlelight must include steak and wine? Make desserts if your darling has a sweet tooth, for example, a chocolate dessert topped with strawberries. Very yummy! :P
Romantic Tip No. 5
Despite the above, always remember that being together on this romantic is the most precious gift, regardless of how hectic your lifestyle and work schedules are. Spend QUALITY time together. Go to a spa, biking, take a walk on the beach, boating, hiking, etc both of you enjoy doing. Leave aside those daily stress and just FOCUS on appreciating each other's company.
Romantic Tip No. 6
There are foods to put you in the mood for love and feeling frisky. Great if you already knew what they are. If not, stay tuned for my next post on foods to put you in the love mood.
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Are you wondering why didn’t he ask you out on a second date? This has been a question among many girls across the globe. The answer is simple: He is just not so into you! I know it hurts but it is the truth. Sometimes we hope that he could tell us what he really thinks. But hey, isn’t the message obvious when he can’t be bothered to make any contact with you? Is it really worth checking your mobile phone every other minute hoping that he calls or sends you a text message? At times, we tend to create horrible excuses when a guy doesn’t call just to ease ourselves!
Excuse:
Maybe he doesn’t want to rush into it
Truth:
Instead of keeping you guessing, a guy will let you know if he really likes you, but for some reasons he doesn’t want to rush into things to make sure that you don’t get away.
Excuse:
Maybe he is intimidated by me
Truth:
What an excuse! If a guy is really into you, he will ask you out again regardless of who you are or even if you are earning better than him.
Excuse:
Maybe he is afraid to wreck the friendship
Truth:
If he really wants you, he will give it a try even if it may risk the friendship.
Excuse:
Maybe he too busy to contact me
Truth:
A man will never be too busy to make time for someone he adores.
Excuse:
Maybe he is waiting for me to call him
Truth:
A guy will not wait for you to call him if he is really keen.
Excuse:
If he isn’t interested, why does he give me his number?
Truth:
He will make the move if he wants you!
Going after a guy who clearly isn’t bothered about you is likely to blow your self-esteem and confidence after some time, especially if it doesn’t work out. If he wants you, he will call. However, I have encountered some guys who are really shy. It is not necessary for him to call first although it has been said that girls should be passive when it comes to dating. I initiated my last relationship, not knowing if he would be interested or even remembers me because we only met once at a business seminar. To my surprise, he responded positively after our first date and we actually took all the steps to move it forward. Although it is over between us now, I had a wonderful relationship with him and I am still proud that I made the first call.
If you think that you are a reasonably confident person or if you are able to cope with rejections, go ahead if you feel like calling the guy you want instead of sitting around and wait. Some guys may appreciate your call as a hint for him to ask you out for a second date, especially if he is the less confident type. However, if he neither follows up after your first call nor make plans for a second date, don’t bother calling anymore. It will only make you feel demeaned and it is obvious that he doesn’t like you! In some cases, he may like you but some guys are lazy and prefer girls to do the calling and chasing after the first date. Do you really want to be the one who is doing the chasing all the time or to beg a guy who is not into you at all for a second date?
On the other hand, if you see yourself as a conformist and feel that you are supposed to be chased, or simply can’t handle a “No” for an answer, then don’t call and wait to see if he calls after a while. If he still doesn’t call, it is obvious that you didn’t manage to tug his heart string. Stop making up excuses for yourself. You will only end up hurting yourself further if you continue planting hopes that he will invite for a second date. Walk away at this stage than to fall in love with him few months down the line. Move on and find someone who cares for you. He didn’t want you, but some day someone definitely will!
=) best regards to all!
Actions speak louder than words. Here are 123 romantic and proven ideas to express your love and to surprise the person who matters most in your life!
1. Rent a romantic or sentimental DVD and enjoy the movie wrapping into each other’s arms
2. Introduce your dearest to family members, relatives and friends
3. Trust and respect each other
4. Support each other’s career
5. Declare your love under personal advertisement in the newspaper (this is BIG! Haha)
6. Call the radio station your love one listens to, express words of love and dedicate a song
7. Do not compare your love one with anyone else
8. Be courteous all the time. Say please when asking for favors and thank each other for little things done
9. Use soft languages in an argument
10. Apologize to each other after an argument
11. Forgive each other unconditionally
12. Do silly stuff together
13. Enroll in dancing lessons together
14. Shampoo his or her hair
15. Compliment your love one, once a day with something or anything
16. Own a special romantic love song and sing along
17. Acknowledge your love one’s feeling whether you agree or disagree
18. Engrave “I Love You” on a bar of soap
19. Go for vacations together
20. Cook for your love one
21. Do prayers together
22. Respect your love one’s parents and siblings
23. Have a warm, scented bath together
24. Warm up towels with a dryer for few minutes and wrap him or her warm after shower
25. Take emergency leave or call in sick and spend the time doing something special
26. Love him or her unconditionally
27. Create your own greeting cards for your love one
28. Provide care, understanding and reassurance
29. Leave your love one loves notes at places only he will see
30. Call from work and say, I love you
31. Give each other a massage every week
32. Do facial for each other
33. Give kisses and hugs to each other daily
34. Tell your love one you love him or her when he or she is upset
35. Send your love one fresh flowers, not just on special occasions
36. Ask question on each other’s day
37. Give each other space to recover from daily stress
38. Listen to each other patiently and not passively
39. Solve problems together
40. Try to accept each other’s weaknesses
41. Remember the important dates – birthday, valentine’s day, anniversaries, etc
42. Practice honest communication with each other
43. Take his or her side when he or she is upset with someone
44. For guys – do not fight with your love one for another woman other than your mom
45. Do house chores together
46. Spend time walking the dogs together
47. Surprise your love with a glass of fruit juice when he or she steps out from shower
48. Put a heart shaped chocolate in a jacket or handbag for a loving surprise
49. Take a loving photo together, put it in a classy frame and display it
50. Make a bookmark, paste your picture on it and put it in the book your love is reading
51. Light plenty of candles, play soft music and hang a ‘Do Not Disturb’ sign on the door
52. Leave a mushy message in your love’s hand phone’s answering voice mail
53. Serve breakfast in bed or at dinner time
54. Show up for lunch surprise at work
55. Arrange for candlelight dinners at least once a month
56. Share a favorite or romantic dessert together
57. Compile a photo album or create a CD-ROM of the best times together
58. Send a love letter and pour out your feelings
59. Buy your love’s parents a nice meal and thank them for creating such a wonderful person
60. Say I love you in different languages
61. “Warm up” your love’s side of bed while waiting for him or her
62. Energize his or her day with a good morning kiss and “I love you”
63. Have short conversations with your love daily during office hours
64. Send him or her love text messages on the mobile phone daily
65. Walk together in public areas and hold hands
66. Buy each other a ring as a symbol of love
67. Place your love’s hand over your heart when driving
68. Kiss your love at every chance you have
69. Surprise your girl by handing her the TV remote control
70. Call your love at work and tell how much you miss him or her even if you are busy
71. Call your love in the middle of the night and sing, “I just called to say I love you”
72. Call to wish your love one good night and seal it with a kiss
73. Burn a CD of love songs that speaks the commitment of your heart
74. Accompany your guy watching football
75. Make love to him or her every night until he or she asks you to stop
76. Share your romantic fantasies with your love
77. Tattoo his or her name on a preferred part of your body
78. Toast each other during dinner, make a commitment and drink to it
79. Have a walk on the beach and enjoy the moonlight
80. Offer to wash his or her car
81. Book a nice hotel room in town for a romantic weekend break
82. Surprise him with a striptease and leave him wanting more ;)
83. Remember your love’s likes and dislikes
84. Have tolerance of your love’s mood swings during her menstrual period
85. Share every moment of happiness and grievances together
86. Show happiness when he or she comes home
87. Give your best to him or her
88. Tell your love he or she is your greatest fan
89. Feed your love during mealtimes
90. Drive her to anywhere she wants to go
91. Learn how to do manicure and pedicure for your girl
92. Shave for your man
93. Send romantic e-cards to your love declaring undying love
94. Experiment kamasutra with your love
95. Carry your love’s picture with you
96. Shop together for things each other enjoy
97. Tell your love how much you want a lifetime with him or her, and be honest!
98. Create a website for your love - include poetries, pictures, romantic messages and songs, etc
99. Leave some surprise romantic messages on his or her computer or laptop
100. Go for a mystery ride. Keep your love guessing and drive to the surprise destination
101. Learn to say I love you in different languages
102. Make a heart shaped chocolate cake or mousse
103. For women – send him a kiss via mail. Apply the reddest lipstick and blot it on a scented card
104. In a snow-white winter, draw a heart and write I love you in the snow where your love is sure to notice
105. Call from your business trip and tell your love how much you want him or her to be there with you
106. Give your love a surprise air-ticket to join you for the weekend if you are traveling on business
107. Buy a sexy night wear and hide it under her pillow with a note “I hope you will wear it for me tonight”
108. Surprise your love one with bouquet of flowers at work or at home
109. Use other romantic words such as I value you, I adore you, etc to express love other than I love you
110. Surprise her with a piece of jewelery in a champagne glass
111. Master the recipe of making your lover’s favorite drink or dessert
112. Try to spend as much time with your lover
113. Recap your first date together
114. Surprise your love one on a weekend morning with breakfast
115. Duplicate a set of your house keys to him or her, if you staying alone
116. Give her a No Question Asked bank account
117. Take your love to a local art museum or a romantic theatre play
118. Make a list of your love’s personal traits that you admire most and give it as a gift
119. Surprise your love’s evening with a hired chauffeur in a limousine to take her to dinner with you
120. Emboss romantic words on a t-shirt and wear it together
121. Try new and dangerous activities together such as bungee jumping
122. Have compassion, tolerance and loyalty to each other
123. Plan for the future hand in hand!
